This was so complicated to write because I’m still figuring it out myself. In my twenty-one years though, I think I’ve got it locked down as much as I can. Everyone’s different and you know what works for you, but here are some things I work on reminding myself on a day-to-day basis.
+ know your worth: you bring something to the table that no one else does because no one else is you!
+ stop putting people on a pedestal. This is something that a lot of girls struggle with; especially in terms of guys. Stop putting them on a pedestal and put yourself on one…know your worth! The only reason why you think someone might have more or be better than you is because you’re allowing yourself to believe it.
+ don’t take things personally. If you haven’t read The Four Agreements yet, you need to… it’s life-changing. The author talks about not taking negative things personally, but also positive things (which I had never thought about). He explains how a person will tell you something mean when THEY feel sh*tty about themselves and will compliment you when THEY are in a good mood. Learn your worth, then an outsider’s perspective won’t matter and you won’t take it personally.
+ work on treating your body right. Everyone knows this one, but taking care of yourself really does boost confidence. Exercise releases endorphins which trigger a positive feeling in your body; just a few minutes of exercise a day can do wonders on confidence. The same goes for eating right and making sure you’re fueling your body with the right nutrients.
+ hype someone else up when they need it. You should be doing this on a daily basis anyways, but reminding someone how great and awesome they are often time reminds you too! There’s a reason why you love the people you surround yourself with, and there’s a reason why they keep you around too.
+ dress up. Throw on clothes that make you feel good or even plan a GNO.
+ let go and be honest. Holding grudges, secrets, feelings, and emotions pile up. When I’m overwhelmed and feeling bleh, talking it out, opening up, and letting go of things always takes a huge weight off my shoulders. For me, deep talks cure just about everything. Sometimes it’s hard to open up, but totally worth it.
+ words of affirmation. Start your morning with words of affirmation. If you’re unsure of where to start, google it! There are a ton of apps and YouTube videos that guide you along the affirmations. Reminding yourself that you are a badass in the morning can really set the tone for the day. I’ve never been big into looking myself in the mirror and telling myself affirmations, but I know that works for so many people.
+ set goals. Visualize and set big and small goals for yourself. Working at making these goals happen and setting yourself up so they do happen will boost your confidence (or at least it does for me).